Introduce your child in a positive manner. It is important that you help the school see the strengths and capabilities of your child. Focus on what your child can do and when extra help is not needed. What strategies worked well and what interests helped your child to learn and to participate? Be honest about the specific supports that will help your child be successful, keeping the focus again on your child’s ability to learn.
Research and empirical evidence tells us that there are many detrimental effects of excessive and unnecessary paraprofessional proximity: separation from classmates, unnecessary dependence, interference with peer interactions, insular relationships (student/paraprofessional), student begins to feel stigmatized, limited access to competent instruction, interference with teacher engagement (and low teacher ownership of the student), student’s loss of personal control, loss of gender identity (e.g. male student in female bathroom); the probability of provoking problem behaviours (when student rebels against the paraprofessional support). Get creative! Emphasize instead that the para-professional do administrative tasks to free the teacher to spend more time instructing students; engage in follow-up instruction if needed; provide supervision in group settings; assist with personal care needs if needed; facilitate social skills, peer interactions, and positive behavior supports (Giangreco, M. et al, 2005).
Think of the future and what the drawbacks are to having a full-time paraprofessional shadowing or hovering over your child. Do I want a future for my child involving more adult support and dependency (primarily paid support), or a future that encourages normalized experiences with my child’s peer group in our community, exploring natural supports and opportunities for self-determination?
(Giangreco et al, Teaching Exceptional Children, Vol37 No5, pp28-34, 2005 Council for Exceptional Children)